We watched an old movie, which, at the conclusion, my son said, "Well, that was cool and all, but I have to ask … what was the plot?"
You can go to great efforts and be lavish, but if the other person doesn't understand what you are trying to say …
it's a fruitless effort; all for naught.
Better to be understood that to be extravagant, loud, pushy, right, the winner, etcetera.
Without understanding, there is no connection. And from where I sit, without this, there is no point.