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So I just read a comment by Mark Twain stating: "When a man loves cats, I am his friend and comrade, without further introduction." (and, more humourously, "If man could be crossed with the cat it would improve the man, but it would deteriorate the cat.")

Bear with me while I digress only to return later …

A common phrase where I live is: Don't judge me! (Probably said often, because this is a very critical culture here).

And, added to the mix, a friend asked me, "What do you think is the difference between not judging she quoted Jesus' words: Judge not, because then you will also be judged ( http://www.sermoncentral.com/sermons/scripture/sermons-on-matthew-7+2.asp)                       and then discernment, which seems to require some form of this not-politically-correct evil?

What do all of these have to do with each other?

And how does "Women's Intuition" factor in?

A kinder, more gentler word for this is ASSESSMENT.

How can you live a wise life, if you are unpracticed at assessing situations?  

I have worked with University students for over a quarter of a century, and have seen this lack of  assessing skills in so many young folks – and I assumed it was precisely because they lacked life experience.  However, the longer I have been alive, I have noticed that actually, the vast majority of older persons lack this skill as well.  People trust individuals they shouldn't and don't trust those they should.  They invest in losing ventures and pass by ones that would make them wealthy. 

What is the difference between these, and then those who can accurately evaluate people and situations?

Elementary, my dear Watson.  (For those of you who are Sherlock aficionados).

Small details.  Curiosity.  The ability to synthesize many subtle clues together into a coherent story that gives information to you about how that person or situation is likely to behave.  

Some learn this through trial and error (translation, not until their older).  Some, are fortunate to have this be almost second-nature (personality plus someone who modeled wisdom).  And, some, unfortunately never learn this, to their misfortune and the sadness of all who their lives touch. Their's is a life of never-ending chaos.

Yet there is a fourth category, for those who do not come by this naturally:  you can systematically pursue wisdom.  You can set your face into the wind and chase after sensible, discerning individuals.  You can read books that point you toward a self-and-others-aware life. You can change your stars, a la A Knights Tale. Do it.  


[a good read on how to assess the individuals in your life … "Safe People" by Henry Cloud.  http://www.amazon.com/Safe-People-Relationships-Avoid-Those/dp/0310210844/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1394411876&sr=8-1&keywords=safe+people Gives some good food for thought and discussion]

Yes, I am one of those people who loves cats and occasionally dresses them up for holiday photos.  Don't judge me.